Have you fallen for someone who isn’t fully available?
Being the other woman is exhausting and emotionally complex.
It’s a mix of passion and pain — of stolen moments and deep longing.
It often leaves you questioning your worth, your values, and your future.
Being involved with a married man or an unavailable partner often starts with an irresistible spark. In the beginning, the connection can feel magical — like you’ve finally found someone who truly sees you. Every stolen moment feels electric. As the affair partner, you might live for those brief times you can be together, feeling chosen and special.
However, as time goes on, a deep, aching sadness starts to creep in.
Saturday nights feel lonely when he’s sleeping beside his wife. Sunday afternoons stretch out painfully when you wish you could be walking hand-in-hand in the park — but instead, you sit alone. Frustration grows when you want to share your world, your everyday life, but only get glimpses of his. You can’t just call him whenever you need. You can’t drop by his house or plan a spontaneous overnight. Secrecy traps you. You live as the other woman, not as an equal partner.
Over time, resentment begins to brew.
You might start feeling anxious, questioning him constantly — When is this going to change? When will you be free? When can I stop being a secret? You ask, you plead, yet the promises remain vague. The situationship keeps dragging forward without a clear path. You wonder if you’re being strung along while the goalposts keep shifting.
Sadness deepens into depression. Isolation builds when friends grow tired of hearing you go in circles — because even though you love him, even though you feel seen by him, the reality is: you are alone in this.
You start doubting yourself.
Then him.
And eventually, whether love should ever feel this hard.
You ruminate at night, your mind racing with “what ifs,” “should I leave?” and “maybe next month he’ll be ready.”
Your nervous system stays on high alert — heart pounding with every delayed text, every broken promise.
You comfort eat.
Self-care slips away.
Dreams, joy, and peace fade — sacrificed for someone who may never be yours.
Still, you hold on.
And yes, you continue to hope.
You do it because you’re invested — because letting go feels like giving up on everything you once believed in.
“I deserve more than this.”
This voice may be small, but it holds power.
It remembers your worth.
It knows love shouldn’t come with conditions, secrecy, or silence.
It’s the whisper that nudges you toward healing — not because you’ve failed, but because you finally see the truth:
You deserve a love that’s honest, balanced, and fully yours.
You are not alone in this. Many women have walked this painful path — and many have found the strength to walk away and begin again, with clarity and self-respect.
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